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Tuesday, 29 December 2009

Dating someone with a child.

So I have a question for everybody...Im 19 and i have a 2 year old son. When i was 16 i made a stupid drunk decision to sleep with somebody and in just that one time, I had gotten pregnant. I ended up keeping the baby for several reasons.

- I dont believe in abortions unless its because of rape or for medical reasons
- My son didnt ask to be born so it wasn't fair to him to not give him a life he deserved
- every action has a reaction and i take full responsibility for what happened.

now I like to thing im not an ugly person. I meet new people everyday and have had one serious relationship since the birth of my son. The serious relationship was with my best friend and thats where the problems have started with me having a child.

He was a great boyfriend and him and my son got along great the problem was with my boyfriends mother. She never even gave me a shot or got to know me, she instantly didnt aprove me of because i had a baby. Being who she was and a bunch of other un needed drama, she ended up breaking us up, not only losing my boyfriend but my best friend.

Ever since then i have had nothing but problems with dating. People automatically judge me because i have a child. I think it to be really unfair that some people wont give me a chance because i have a baby.

Just recently when i meet someone, i dont tell them right off the bat the i am a young mom, i want them to get to know who i am as a person before they assume the worst because im a mom. when it comes down to telling them about my son, they end up leaving anyway. Am i wrong in doing this? I guess my biggest problem is that i dont understand what a decision i made 2 years ago, has to do with whomever im interested in. Im not looking for a handout or a father figure. Iv been raising my son by myself without supprt for 2 years and i can continue to do it myself. So can some of you give me some insight as to this situation?

Would you ever date someone with child?
Am i wrong as to leaving that detail out?

Monday, 14 December 2009

Marijuana (healthy but illegal?)

Well to start off with, most of you who know me, know too well that I hate the system with an extreme passion. I find the government to be hypocritical, ignorant and well...shitty. I started smoking pot a few months ago. I only do it once in a great while but to me, its my stress re leaver. I'm Italian so naturally i have a bad temper and weed is the perfect way to settle me down.

Now what i don't understand is, why would the government decide to use marijuana as a medical use but not legalize it to the rest of society? for one thing, Weed is 10x better then smoking cigarettes and cigars. So you're going to tell me that its OK for an 18 year old to kill himself slowly with a cancer stick, but only people who are in medical need can smoke pot?

If pot is healthy enough for medically challenged citizens why is it not OK for the rest of us to practice it. Marijuana isn't addicting like cigarettes are either.
So in retrospect the government would rather see 1000 die every year of lung cancer rather then smoke a joint legally.

PS. If Barack and Michelle smoke a bowl once in awhile we should too!

Friday, 11 December 2009

Judge a Book by its cover

Some of you may not agree with what I am posting but that's the beauty of having a free country right? to start off with, I was walking in the mall the other day when I had over heard a conversation from some girls. I had started to laugh to myself and walking away from their group is when I had realized why I had started laughing.
When you meet someone, or notice someone, what is the first thing you notice? Don't lie to yourself and say something original like, "their personality" Their personality isn't what you noticed first because that's not the first thing you saw. You immediately judge that person based on, yes their appearance. Judging on their appearance, how they're dressed, if their face is attractive, how they carry themselves is what's going to make you either want to get to know them or not. I am so sick to death of hearing people say "looks don't matter to me" when you and everyone else know that's just what you say when you want to sound like a nice person.
The reality of it is, Looks do matter, if you are not physically attracted to somebody, it doesn't matter how great of a personality they have, you wont consider them. You are not being a lousy person by saying that you judge a book by its cover, we all do it it's our natural instinct as humans.
So if you're the girl at the mall who tried to tell her friends that his looks didn't matter, Let it go, we all know you're lying as much as you do. And in the end you're going to end up dumping this guy or letting him go. whatever the situation.
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